Please excuse my French! Sorry but not sorry. Have you ever dealt with people that you love or care about and they continue to screw you over like it’s their day job? I don’t know about you but I have. Interestingly enough, it’s usually the people closest to you. Friends, family, even significant others. Shit, sometimes your own damn kids! (I know spouse and kids include family) but damn! Is no one trustworthy or loyal anymore?
Yes, I know we are all human beings and we make mistakes. We sometimes lose our cool, say things or do things we shouldn’t, or simply accidentally or unintentionally offend someone. Yes, this does happen but the difference between decent human beings and a complete ass wipe is that they have the decency to apologize and correct the problem. Or on the other hand have the heart to forgive instead of hold on to unnecessary grudges. This happens way too often in close relationships. What hurts the most is that you figure that these are the people should be there for you. Encouraging you, not happy that your failing and then kicking the shit out of you when your down. I understand there are people that want the best for us and are just brutally honest. These are not who I am referring to.
I am talking about one’s closest to us that act like they are happy for you but they are really your enemies. The one’s that act like they are there for you but then talk about you behind your back. The one’s who always want to bring up how you used to be, instead of seeing how you have grown and changed. The one’s that constantly put you down, while you still try to build them up! These relationships are toxic!
If you have there people in your life right now (and many of us do). Cut them out! That is, if you can of course. If it’s your family, sometimes you have to understand that you will just have to learn to love them from a distance. What I mean by this is, you still how up for family events, you still do the Christian thing and show up for them in times of trouble (emergencies) but you don’t hang out with them or call them often. You don’t continue to act like you have a healthy, happy relationship with them and you don’t. Be honest with them and be honest with yourself!
This is when you create your own family, friends, and close community. I’m not saying even then it wont be perfect but it will be much better and healthier for you. Believe me, you will grow and accomplish things you never thought you could because they are no longer relevant. Sometimes you just got to tell the toxic people closest to you “F%$k you and God bless you” at the same damn time. Truth is, you still love them but it is time to push them back or let them go.
So I say this with all the love in the world to those who used to be closet to me…….
” F%$k you and God Bless. I’m Moving on.”